Interesting conversation I had last night..you see someone close to me said something I took in an insulting way. Their wise words, their wisdom..I don’t know it kinda stung and their poor choice of words didn’t help matters its as if I had to piece together a riddle and when I played back the conversation I think I knew what they meant…but did I…I wasn’t sure.
I had to ask, I mean this wonderful person would never insult intentionally….good thing I asked because after their explanation, I was right, the poor choice of words would have probably insulted anyone because what was said and what they meant were 2 different things. I made a comment so that I was repeating what they said based on my interpretation and it sounded insulting, I said it in a way that I was almost in agreement when truly I was clarifying the words in the conversation. When I did this rather than correct the way they expressed themselves… they ever so kindly pointed out when you say it to yourself like that…its self loathing. Although I found this to be an interesting twist in the conversation…. without a doubt it was profound for me and opened up my mind.
Let’s face it, opinions flow.. and they won’t always be good. Reading, repeating and reliving someone else’s negative opinion of you..its very much like self talk..self hate and worse…self loathing..the best way to combat this…is remind yourself..its none of my business what others think about me. Its their opinion not mine.
Build confidence and have courage to let these opinions roll off your back! When u place too much importance on what others say, you tend to lose a sense of self… When it comes to you….it’s your opinion that counts that truly matters..its you that you face in the mirror each day. Regardless of what other’s opinions are of you…you are unique…you are special…and you are beautiful…
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise and do yourself a favor stop reliving the negative things that others say about you…its their mere mortal opinion….. Sometimes listening to some opinions and repeating and reliving what was said.. it can turn into self talk…self hate…and worse…self loathing.
As humans we have a tendency to value others opinions..and I do to a certain degree. Why not put them in a place where they belong…far away from your Psyche…away from thoughts. You only have one shot at life..are you gonna let someone’s mere mortal opinion stand in your way?
Part 1 of 90 days of inspirational messages.
